We all have core beliefs we live by. Truly core beliefs.
Recently I have visited with some people I respect and admire. They don't all share my core beliefs. And that startled me. Because on the surface, we lead similar lives. Maybe, like me, they go to my church. Maybe we volunteer together. Maybe we volunteer at a school function together.
That their core beliefs differ doesn't change my liking or respect.
And we ARE similar.
I have discovered that to feel good about myself, I have to do certain things. I am old enough by now to realize other people can be really good friends and not have those same compulsions.
I hope I will get some responses here.
Yesterday I was visiting with a woman who grew up as a Jehovah Witness. She told me, and I hadn't known this, that they do not believe in voting. That literally shocked me. I don't think anything on my personal "have to" list will make me better, or more worthy, or even respectable. Some of it doesn't come from my family.
But: I always thought before
You vote. If you are legally allowed to, you vote. And, by damn, not just in presidential elections. You vote for the city, for the school, and when taxes come up. Sometimes you hold your nose. You vote. Now, in my lexicon, you don't have to get active in politics. That's up to you. But every chance you have,
You Vote. And voting is new to her. And after I caught my dropping jaw, we talked more. Wow.
I can't give blood any more because of medication, but I have O Negative, and for years I gave blood every 8 weeks. Public service. You lie down for a few minutes, and you get juice and cookies. I always walked out feeling righteous. So if you can,
You Donate Blood. And you donate your organs and skin when you die.
For a few years in a tough job trying to help families, I didn't volunteer. But I felt guilty. Somewhere, something you like, kids you like, a cause you like, needs free workers. Find a place you want to work. Then,
You see places where a little cash could make the lives of kids, families, veterans, old people....pick the group. If you don't have the cash, do you have clothes or other stuff? All you have to do, is take it in and
Donate. Something. Somewhere. I've seen folks at the soup kitchen bring in their garden produce before eating the next meal. Not at all necessary. But they walked so tall after they did it.
There's a lot of room in this for lying and cheating and doing stuff.... well.
I just was startled, that's all. I learned I had some bedrock things I didn't even know were there, but they are. They help me live.
What are your BedrockValues?
I do have one more. I don't always like to tell the truth. But if you ask me the questions,
I don't lie. Ever.